These days Grannies often do not live near their grandchildren. I am very fortunate, I live in the same village as mine. When the child is small the mother needs to be able to have a bit of help, in order to be able to carry out the ordinary tasks and to get a bit of rest and eventually to be able to enjoy an old hobby or two. This all gives granny the perfect chance to spend time with the grandchild. Your stamina will not last forever so you are unlikely to out-stay your welcome. This is a chance to be a valuable ally to your daughter, or daughter-in-law. A good granny may give advice, but encourage the new Mum to make her own decisions. The way we did it is not always the best way. Boost the Mum's confidence whenever you can.If the Mum goes back to work you may be able to mind the baby for her. This is a great privilege and means that your grand child will be brought up with the same family values as your daughter. Enjoy watching your grand child grow.
There are two main types of depression, reactive, which is a reaction to your circumstances and endogenous, which is a part of your makeup and not entirely affected by your circumstances. I get the second type. When I am depressed I like to sleep a lot, this is probably not a good thing as depression can lift if you do not have extra sleep. It is all very well knowing that , but acting upon it is another thing. Exercise is also beneficial. Some sorts of depression can be lifted by taking these measures, but some people need medication. You need to get to know your doctor and develope a relationship with him/her where you feel you can trust their judgement. Do look for help as there are lots of possibilities out there. It is not good to spend long stretches of time on your own. Talking with other people will often help lift your spirits, especially if they are people who have gone through this experience themselves. Maybe you need to join a self help group. Avoid people who tell...
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