Prayer is not like a slot machine where you put something in and get what you want. Prayer is not so much asking God to do something as getting yourself in line with his will. If we believe God's way is the best way, we need to find out what that way is and get alongside. God wishes the best for us but we have to find out what that best is. At first it may appear to be anything but the best. None of us wants to suffer, but suffering can make us better people. If we relate suffering to this life only we will see it as a bad thing. If we look to the longer view and think of eternity when all will be finally sorted, if we are trusting in Jesus all our sorrows will be washed away and no longer remembered. So do not be afraid to face suffering. By prayer become God's friend like Abraham, who followed God even thought he didn't know where he was going. Throw away your plan for your life. Give your life over to God and find yourself in the biggest adventure.