This is a thorny topic.
My own mother-in-law was a very gentle person who never interfered,
except to buy cards for my birthday and other occasions for my husband to give
me. I always knew that she had done this
because the cards had corny verses of a sickly sweet kind which made my husband
and I giggle. So how am I shaping up as a mother-in-law? There is always the temptation to interfere
with my years of wisdom. It is hard to
stand back when you know the right way to do things. But standing back and letting the young
couple get on with sorting themselves out is the most important thing you can
do for them. How are they going to learn to swim in family life if you keep
dragging them out of the water? Plying them
with money is also very bad. How are
they going to learn to budget for themselves if there is always a slush fund
waiting to bail them out? So my advice on being a good mother-in-law is, “Keep
your hands off.” After all it does say in the Bible that a man shall leave his
mother and father and cleave to his wife and that applies to daughters too.
I have written in previous posts about disasters. In the case of Concorde, decisions by people, plus other factors were directly to blame for the event. In the case of the Penlee disaster it may have been avoided if someone had made a better choice in the time beforehand and as a consequence brave men and the ship's crew and the captain and his family died. 9/11 was certainly the result of wicked men committing a terrorist act, but even in this there was heroism notably by another Cornish man, Rick Rescorla who helped many to safety and left it too late to help himself. In situations like this we see what the human spirit is capable of both good and evil. What of disasters that come on people because of the earth restless movement of tectonic plates. Often people live near volcanoes because the land is rich and fertile and they have the chance of a better life there when the volcano is resting. We cannot blame them for that but sometimes people become complacent...
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