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How to be the perfect mother-in-law!!!!





This is a thorny topic.  My own mother-in-law was a very gentle person who never interfered, except to buy cards for my birthday and other occasions for my husband to give me.  I always knew that she had done this because the cards had corny verses of a sickly sweet kind which made my husband and I giggle. So how am I shaping up as a mother-in-law?  There is always the temptation to interfere with my years of wisdom.  It is hard to stand back when you know the right way to do things.  But standing back and letting the young couple get on with sorting themselves out is the most important thing you can do for them. How are they going to learn to swim in family life if you keep dragging them out of the water?  Plying them with money is also very bad.  How are they going to learn to budget for themselves if there is always a slush fund waiting to bail them out? So my advice on being a good mother-in-law is, “Keep your hands off.” After all it does say in the Bible that a man shall leave his mother and father and cleave to his wife and that applies to daughters too.

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